Me Time - Being The Real You :)

"In the end we regret,
The chances we didn't take.. "

(This particular saying is so apt... )

People sometimes ask me who is my most favorite person? Who is it that inspires me? Who would I like to be with, if you were deserted on an uninhabited island. Who would I like to go on a date with?Blah.! Blah.!

I am not embarrassed to say that I love myself. Perhaps more than I love anybody else. I have abundant love for me, my space and my family. But above all — I love and respect myself. As I am the creator of my own destiny I can’t go where I want to go — till the very end , without completely utterly and undoubtedly loving myself… not just my strengths, but my weaknesses and every one of my flaws.

But I was not always like this. I grew up in an environment where I was taught to be smart and ambitious, but I was also taught to put others before me.I was taught to fit into other people’s expectations of my body, my behavior and perhaps even my mind. What should a typically middle class Indian guy/man be like? I was told to try and “fit into” that image. Be the man that people get to love, respect and accept.

I don’t blame my parents. They gave me far more education, courage and ambition than most boys get in this country. However, they also lived in a society where people were expected to be a “certain way” to gain social acceptance.

It was much later in life — perhaps in my teens that I began to realize that I was becoming a “people pleaser”. I would ask myself what will make everyone else happy? In the process of pleasing others I had lost myself... Deep down!

When I got the chance to live outside in hostel and be exposed to a broader world, I started slowly discovering what I like and what I want. I was forced to take break from work. All my life I had done one thing after the other,like most people. School, college, and then work. Every morning I woke up with purpose to go know a better version of myself.It was a journey of experiments to actually find out what is it that I really like to do –for myself. What makes me happy? What sparks’s joy? What really feeds my soul?

It was over that course of 24 months in my hostel,that my journey of self-love started and there has been no looking back. I know it sounds cheesy — but I am my most favorite person in the world. There is no love story greater, deeper or richer than the one we have with ourselves. Self-love, self-esteem,self pampering and self confidence is also the foundation of all our relationships. We can't be successful in any of our relationships unless we learn to love ourselves first. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship in the world. PIOUS ine indeed..!!And let no one tell you otherwise. This is particularly important for every guy, be girl or a boy..

From childhood we are taught the importance of taking care of our bodies — our physical health, but rarely is the discussion focused on the mind and the art of self-love, self-esteem and emotional hygiene. How do you deal with failure, rejection and loneliness?  :(

This temprament of pleasing and luring our emotions, is the main cause for failure and depression nowadays.. It's high time now, this isn't the era of, pleasing and accomodating with others.. This is the generation of stiff competition. Caring and pleasing others both in life and carrer will ruin me, you, us and the entire civilisation.

And when we mastery the art of self esteem and learn prioritising us.. Trust me..!! That's the real success, coz when we perfectize it. We can handle each n every situation and circumstances. (BECAUSE the toughest thing in life is dealing with your own).. Be it anything.
            

Once you are done with that, you can manage your love, ambition, relationship, goals. And hell lot of things in one go :)

       This is the real art of living..!!

                              Trust Me
                              It works. :)
                                                           #swaggy